Not your business…

It is not, I repeat, not your business what people think. They can formulate their opinions, their likes and dislikes just as you and I are slso free to do. Just because you can inquire on people’s opinions, doesn’t mean it is any of our business. It is ok to Care what people think, it is not ok to let that control you. Do not waiver your happiness or finding your true self, because of others’ thoughts on the matter. God created you, in His perfect image. So do not let an imperfect being, degrade, or devalue that which God has stated has immense immeasurable value. Honey, it is not your business, so let it go…

You are Not Forgotten…

This is a short reminder… to all whom have felt lost, have been lost, are lost or seemingly can’t seem to find your way. It does not matter how long it has been, I assure you that You are Not forgotten, not by God and not by those who truly love you. People you don’t even know have you in prayer, placing your path and your life in God’s hands daily. So rest assured, even in the darkest of nights God will rise like a Knight in shining armor and pull you through. Many people get lost and forget their value, You are Worthy, you are Chosen, you have been Called, You are forgiven, not because we deserve it, but because He chose it to be this way. So even when you feel most alone, know that God and all the prayers of those you love reach out to you and are with you.

2.23.2020

Words for my youth…

Psalms 1:1-3

Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night, that person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither– whatever they do prospers.

Are we busy chasing clout or embracing our calling?

Do you want Greatness or Fame? Everybody Famous isn’t Great.

Difference between having Clout and being Chosen – clout can be taken away, people will change their minds, but when you are called and chosen, nothing and no one can change that.

When you attach your significance to Status – it is never enough. If you get it you worry of losing it.

It is not to be noticed but to be known, that is what we really want. To be connected to God.

Matthew 6:2 So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.

We live “saying” we are blessed. But we are not acknowledging what it truly means to Be blessed.

Coming to God, surrendering to God, means we believe that HE came to us to redeem us, to bless us, to show us the way. We cannot seek validation on earthly beings, because our motivation and validation is limited by our own interest and preferences.

We must chase that which God set forth for us.

Bible says “Blessed are those hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shallbe filled” Matthew 5:6. Not “blessed are those with the most followers”

We are gifted by birthright the right to the kingdom, by Jesus’ sacrifice not by our actions. God chose you, he created you with purpose. We must strive to seek God and his righteousness, even if we fail, God is there to give us what we need. God sees all we do, all we go through and even when we mess it up, He is merciful.

The Prodigal son, said, I am not worthy of being called your son, make me a servant.

But the Father Saw, past the stench, the bad decisions, the wasteful ways, the dirty clothes. He saw past all of that and saw him with compassion and love. He saw his son, who didnt look like his son. And he saw His son as he rightfully was.

So today God is calling to you, to come to Him, to work with him to help you through the challenges. Through the trials and on to new higher levels, to better ground. Growth and development which will bear fruit. God sees all your potential and until we learn that God called us, chose us for a reason. We arent worthless, we arent pointless, we arent random, we are intentional creation put forth to bear fruit, to bring forth the calling that God placed in us.

So will you surrender your life to God, try God wholeheartedly and openly seek him so that you may find your calling or develop your calling and talents he has given you? Sometimes we may feel that were being pushed by the drive of popularity, influences of others or even our own expectations but God pulls us into purpose. We must find that the push isnt as powerful as the pull from God.

If you dont already hold a relationship or need to renew that relationship, i want you to bow your heads, and let us pray.

Chosen (verses)… you are STILL Chosen. We can Live life chasing or chosen.

Colossians 3:12. Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

1 Peter 2: 9. But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

When Jesus rose, he spent 40 days with his disciples, speaking about the kingdom of God. The people still inquired about the kingdom of Israel, they couldnt grasp the citizenship of the true kingdom of God. “He said to them, it is Not for you to know” Jesus ghosted the people, and ascended to heaven. Before his sacrifice the holy spirit came on you, but once Jesus’ sacrifice took place, the spirit Lives IN us. Residing. It is with us at all times, not just at special tasks/events

We can care about what others think, but we cannot let it control us. It is not for you to know what others think. It is not your business. People are people, they judge, and create their own ideas, but these are Not the opinions of God. We were brought forth by God, for God, to live with Him here and in Heaven. The journeys we take can be so vastly different but entirely similar in that God called us his children and if we Trust in Him, we will Overcome even the darkest of night.

Things as Parents we must acknowledge

Hello,

Mom of 2 girls here.

Reporting for duty. Yet again, frankly the gig never ends. Put one kid to bed the other one wants all the attention. Girls chat you up from sun up to sun down. We have 2 of them. How my parents survived with 4 girls in the house all teenagers at one given point is beyond my human comprehension.

Alright, just wanted to reel in and mention, discuss, chat about some Parent truths.

Truths hurt but often come with a bit of a reality check or at minimum some validation that if we do this thing right, we are all sharing the same experiences one way or another. We share commonality. In that even when we feel alone. We are really together in all this.

First. We mess up. No one likes to talk about it, discuss it or bring it to light. But Yes, parents screw up royally sometimes, we jump to conclusions too quick, we judge, we prejudge, we lose our cool far too quick, we don’t listen, we speak to harshly, you name it we can at one moment or another be guilty of it. Today was a perfect example, we all woke up happy, refreshed, renewed for another day with a toddler and an almost preteen at home. I was fighting this fight solo. Hubby had to work, lucky bastard lol. Then the mood shifted the baby wouldn’t sit down for a second… and I lost my shit on both of them, the older one didn’t even do anything and was merely guilty for trying to save her sisters ass. Kind hearted kid she is we don’t deserve her…

Anyway, short of the story is, I lost All my cool and it took me a minute to compose myself to be a reputable human again. Meanwhile the baby was sweet talking me saying she loved me, my oldest was checking in on me. And I vented to my husband via fb messenger cuz it was the only defense I had at the time. All in all, we mess up, but the important piece to the puzzle is to acknowledge when we do, and apologize if needed. I sat there once the baby finally fell asleep and held my oldest and apologized.

Second. Kids are jerks. Not always, for some maybe never, lucky few. However kids are kids, and there is often, especially in the early years where they test boundaries that it really feels like a “F-you” moment. Our 1st was always a great, kind, mellow kid, she’s had maybe two or three jerk moments in nearly 10 years of existence. Her sister, that’s an every other minute type of experience, I have felt like a sour patch kid description is accurate for her. She’s great one minute the next she is a hellion. Anyway, short story here is, kids are not perfect little people, and us pretending to have perfect tiny humans at home isn’t doing us any favors, on the contrary, it alienates other parents from reaching out for help or advice, because they’re kids aren’t angels. No one’s kids are! If you say they are, you are lying to yourself… Be real, no you don’t need to air your dirty laundry, but acknowledge the lack of control we all feel at times. It is normal, we all endure it in waves. It’s real. It’s truth.

Finally. Let us not put ourselves in the I don’t do that, or say that, category. You know what,never in my wildest dreams did i imagine i would ever speak a foul word, in front of my kids. Then my kids pissed me off, broke some shit, ruined some clothes or furniture and reality set in. Yes, my obvious choice is to refrain, but some instances in life, human Z kicks in rather than mom Z. I also aspired to cook everything these kids ate, to read every single night, restrict tv viewing and electronic use. Some days I need the 10minutes moana will buy me to shower or style my hair. So while TV does Not raise my kids, it can be a helping aide to my rescue when I can’t hold a wiggly toddler and do what I need at home. I pray for my kids, i play with them, i sing, i read, we watch movies together, i cook when i can, we share meals together. Even if i mess up, do the wrong thing , say the wrong thing, it doesn’t make me a worse parent, just like if you can do it all, you still aren’t the perfect parent.

Let us share the joys and the struggles of parenting, this is the hardest thing we will ever do. The one thing we all share,is that we want the best and to do the best for our kids. I want healthy, independent, intelligent, kind hearted, sweet girls to become strong powerful women. To do that I need support. Advice. Kind words. Encouragement. God and his word. Wisdom.

So I hope these acknowledgements have shed even a little hope. We are all trying to keep it together, while trying to navigate all the randomness that comes with this gig. I would not trade it for anything.

Blessings to all who parent, co-parent, step-parent, foster parent, act like a parent, are a role model, a leader to young ones. This is a tough road, but to take it up with strength and pride and a hopeful attitude will be better than choosing to let it all fall where it may. Remain strong, keep the hope and know tomorrow will be a better day.